Hi Gale,
Nice to meet you. Wow, that's quite a history, I'm sorry for all you've been through. My name is Pam, I'm a 44 yo wife and mother that has just been diagnosed with RA. I stumbled upon this site and found some wonderful friends here. It is a great place to chat with people that truly understand what you're going through. I'm glad you found us. I am going to take your post and put it up in the Rheumatoid Arthritis forum. It is always busy there, and I know everyone would like to meet you. So check there for replies. 
Welcome,
Pam